Bet you’re better at building relationships than you give yourself credit for.
The key is to recognize in yourself the behaviors that people find naturally attractive and to be willing to build these likable qualities, and bring them out more often.
How many of these qualities do you have, and which could you cultivate even more?
1. You (wisely) mirror and match. To the extent that it makes sense, you mirror the other person’s body language and match her vocal quality.
This is important for two reasons. Reason #1: We like people we perceive to be like us, and when you mirror and match others, they feel you’re a kindred spirit.
You’re probably really good at your job. But, do you come across as too perfect?
You know how important your personal relationships are. And of course, your work relationships are important, too.
Since I deliver lots of seminars and keynotes on communication and leadership, I’m often asked how to be more approachable at work. Savvy leaders know to influence people, they must feel comfortable with you.
Bottom line: Meaningful relationships start with trust. When you feel you cannot trust someone, game over. No chance you’re going to listen to them or connect with them, much less let them influence you.
I’m surprised sometimes how often I hear something from clients that I believe represents a huge obstacle in their having the kinds of trusting relationships that lead to their ability to naturally bond and to ethically influence others.
You don’t need a title to be a leader. If you have the qualities that inspire others to go for self-improvement, professional and personal development, to be who they are at their best, you have the essence of leadership.
Great leaders have presence, and as you cultivate aspects of leadership, you’ll want to include the qualities of presence.
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Really enjoying your work is one of life’s greatest joys.
Check out our 27-minute video “Job Love: 5 Ways Great Leaders Inspire Full Engagement.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p2Hhx3ZMcJg
Meanwhile, let’s take a closer look at what you can do right now to get a deeper sense of satisfaction from your work.
- Connect your work to your BFW’s. BFW’s are your “Big Fat Why’s.” You’re smart, easy to get along with, willing to work smart and hard, you could have had your choice of jobs. Yet, you chose this one.
Remind yourself what it is about this particular job that you find so rewarding. The closer you can directly connect your work to your values, the easier it will be for you to weather the challenging times (all jobs have them) and come through with a major sense of accomplishment.
- Keep challenging yourself to keep your skills current and relevant.
The great hockey play Wayne Gretzky was asked why he was so successful. His answer, “I skate to where the puck is going.”
Demonstrate your commitment to your work by watching your industry’s trends. Anticipate the likely direction of where the wind is blowing and be agile in your willingness to keep learning and growing. (more…)
Yes, the job would be so much easier if all had a strong sense of accountability at work!
And yet, we all know that you really only have control over your own actions. So, here are five actions you can take to be sure you’re doing your part to hold yourself responsible and accountable at work.
Think of these five actions as memory jogs to keep you on track of being your best.
- Be self-aware. Specifically, before you start your first task at work, ask yourself where are you now mentally and emotionally? Are you calm and focused, or wired and distracted?Next, where do you need to be mentally and emotionally in order to accomplish well the task in front of you? Preparing to give a presentation takes a different mindset than getting ready to give a difficult coaching session to an employee. Tune into what frame of mind paves the way for success in that activity.
Hello all Leaders! You are invited to a free live webinar this Thursday, August 18th at 9am Mountain Time.
Our topic: “Leadership and Grit: How to Inspire Unstoppable Mental Toughness”.
Here’s your link to sign up: Cut and paste as needed: https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/241883038246231298
Here are some of the points we’ll cover:
• What is grit and how does it succeed where willpower fails?
• Stress: Why it’s the Golden Ticket most people never cash in
• Mind hacks that foster mental toughness
• Einstein, poker, and the secret behind tilts and tells and emotional endurance
• Tapping into resilience after major disappointments (more…)