Social Savvy

The Relationship between Success and Emotional Intelligence

Your level of personal and professional success is measured by your level of emotional intelligence.

people-apple-iphone-writing-largeIf you’re looking to be “socially savvy”, it helps to now what essential skills you’re weak in and be sure to cultivate those. Social awareness and social confidence are critical to your personal and professional success.

Research proves while women are better than men at immediately picking up on the emotions of others, men exhibit more social confide
nce in work settings.

This difference is no longer evident among the most successful leaders. Apparently, boosting these skills help these leaders become “the most successful.”

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Positive Thinking Gets a New Twist

For Positive Change, Start Here

positive thinking done rightWhen positive thinking just isn’t getting you where you want to be, it might be time boost positive results with an unexpected twist.

Research has proven that the right kind of negative thinking can actually increase your chances of getting those goals you really want.

Try WOOP for a healthy dose of realistic optimism that’s been proven time and time again to help people reach their goals, no matter how ambitious those goals may be.

W-O-O-P is a four-step process created by psychologist Gabriele Ottingen, who wrote the book “Rethinking Positive Thinking.” WOOP allows you to think through what might go wrong so you’ve got back up plans when the unexpected happens.

It works like this:

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5 Proven Strategies to Attract & Retain Top Talent:

Leaders, How Many of These are You Using?

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You’re looking ahead and thinking you definitely need some great people to fill positions. The only problem: How to get the right people, and once they’re on payroll, how to keep them?

Here are five proven ways to do just that.

1. Foster Internal Brand Ambassadors
1. You need to foster brand ambassadors from within to share their job love on social. Millennials are most likely to be on social media and leas likely to ever go to your website. Be where they are. Make sure your ambassadors are all on the same page and know what your brand is about. Next, give them quick guidance about how to leverage their social presence, status and updates so they can maximize their influence with potential candidates. If you’re looking for a good example of employees on social, check out #joblove. That’s Lulu Lemon employees, rocking the brand, spreading the love.

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When Your Best Is Not Enough: Take This Giant Step Forward

There’s hope. Don’t give up.

When nothing's working, there is hope.When you’ve worked hard, beyond what anyone has the right to expect, and yet you’re still not getting the success you want, you can feel helpless.

After all, when you’ve given your effort all you’ve got, what else is left?

You CAN turn this around. Just when you feel at the end of your rope, there is a clear path of what to try instead. It just takes a mindset shift on your part.

Your answer in turning what seems like an impossible situation into a successful outcome comes from the words of Sir Winston Churchill: “Sometimes it is not enough to do our best, we must do what is required.”

I remember the first time I read that quotation. It was on a bumper sticker on the car in front of me in back to back traffic.

It was Los Angeles, it was rush hour, and I’m pretty sure a few we were going about negative five miles an hour.

The bumper sticker read: “Sometimes it’s not enough to do your best, you must do what is necessary.”

I immediately chose to feel annoyed. (Notice that I say “I CHOSE” to feel annoyed. At least I was taking ownership of my feelings.)

My automatic response was “What do you mean, my best is not enough? What else is there?”

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For Life Mastery: 1 Must-Change Mindset for Time Management

This Self-Talk Script Transforms Your Productivity


Make important tasks a priority by scheduling them on your calendarHave you ever reached out to a family or long-time friend you haven’t talked with in a while, and they said something like this: “How great to hear from you! I’ve been thinking about you! Wanted to connect, but I’ve been so busy.”

How did that feel? Did you ever think in a droll tone: “You’re busy? Really? What’s that like?”

Yet, we all tell ourselves stories about busy-ness, our time and productivity.

Perhaps you yourself have a bit of self-talk script that, with one slight tweak, will transform your productivity.

Read on to discover what that script is, and how to change it so you can exercise self-leadership.

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4 Actions To Help You Feel More Confident

Crystal clear ideas that will raise your self-esteem

Everything you want is just outside your comfort Zone How uplifting to know that there are specific actions you can take right away to help you feel more confidence and raise your self-esteem.

There are many reasons why you may feel less than confident at times, but as you take one or more of these four actions, you’ll find your self-esteem building as you reach a new level of confidence.

1. Rethink the retreat. Ever had the urge to quit when something got hard?

Truth: That’s not your fault! Humans are hard wired to avoid pain and be attracted to pleasure.

Of course, anything you’ve accomplished up to this point has had a degree of difficulty to it, yes?

Part of the pleasure you have in accomplishing that feat you’re thinking of lies in the fact that it took effort on your part to persevere even when it got tough.

Your persistence is part of your pleasure.

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5 Powerful Ways to Motivate Yourself NOW!

(You CAN Learn Motivation)

Motivate yourself today with these 5 ways.

Motivate yourself today with these 5 ways.

Motivate Yourself NOW with these 5 powerful tips!

Thinking that your life would be even better if you could just get yourself motivated to take action in a few key areas?

You can learn motivation, and these five actions can help.

  1. Know your BFW’s. That stands for Big Fat Whys. If you’ve ever thought you wanted to do something, but couldn’t motivate yourself to take consistent action, you might have been missing this key ingredient.The secret sauce is your WHY.Think you want to stop procrastinating, eat better, exercise more, whatever? WHY?

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How to Recession Proof Your Job

The Importance of Being Lovable

Lovable Frog with Heart

Harvard Business Review reported in an article titled “How to Recession Proof Your Job” that when push comes to shove (if layoffs are coming), it’s more important for you to be ‘lovable’ than to be competent.

Why? It’s just that important to people that you are easy to work with.

So what makes a person ‘lovable’?

Good question, here’ s the most important thing to remember: You like people who are like you.

So, if someone perceives that you are like them, then they’re likely to like you.

Example: Your boss is blunt, to the point, and ends the conversation quickly. What are you going to do? You got it, same thing. Say what needs to be said and no more.

Another example: Your co-worker enjoys getting to know people on a more personal level. The solution? Spend just a few moments (not all day, of course) chit chatting about their plans for the weekend. To end the conversation, just say, “Well, I gotta get back to it. Talk with you later.”

5 Ways to Boost Success and Build Confidence

What successful people do. Try these tips, they work!

5 Ways to Boost Success and Confidence

Great news if you’re looking to be an even better version of yourself. Others have traveled the path of self-actualizing and optimal living, and you can too.

Let’s look at five ways that you can ramp up your personal growth game.

  1. Make the right actions habitual.

Michael Phelps, with eight gold medals the most decorated Olympian in history, is my personal favorite example for this first tip.

In his book No Limits: The Will to Succeed, Phelps talks about Coach Bob Bowman’s philosophy: set high goals, and work conscientiously every day to achieve them.

For five years, from 1998 to 2003, Phelps trained every day, except three days, one when there was a snowstorm, two others when he had his wisdom teeth pulled.

Other than that, he trained every day.

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Phelps notes that all Olympians are obviously elite athletes, so what separates the great from the very best?

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5 Proven Ways to Overcome Setbacks, Disappointments and Epic Fails

How to bounce back after failure

blockadeIf you are on a path to become a better version of yourself, you’ve already discovered that not everything you try will work.

Whether you’re looking to take your fitness, business or spiritual enlightenment or other areas of your life to a new level, you’ll reach obstacles with you don’t always handle with grace and ease.

What can you do to ensure that you stay on your path of high performance, growth and self-actualizing even as you encounter these “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune”?

Use these five proven ways to overcome and you will prevail.

  1. Keep perspective. Recall the fact that you have overcome setbacks before, and you will prevail over this one, too.

The only way to change yourself is to challenge yourself.

This isn’t the first time you’ve attempted something new. You’ve been down this road before. Learning to drive is an example. Remember how awkward that was at first?

As you grow, of course, your challenges will get harder, yes? It will help to remind yourself,

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5 Ways to Abandon Boredom & Anxiety and Ease into Flow

Less Worry, More Happiness

Flow is where you want to GoFlow is the sweet spot

Flow is a state of mind and activity where your skills are just about at the level of the meaningful challenge you’re working on.

Mihaly c, psychologist, and author of the book “Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience” notes that while you can be happy from external circumstances, like a vacation or a raise, flow is “what makes for excellence in life.”

What keeps you from the optimal experience of flow?

If your skills are way above your challenge, you’ll feel bored.

If your skills are way below your challenge, you’ll feel anxious.

What to do with boredom?

What can you do if you’re feeling bored? Of course, we all have mundane activities we have to do, in both our personal and professional lives. Try making it a game. How can you make that process faster or more efficient?

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7 Ways to Get a Mastery Mindset

Mental Toughness Can Be Learned

forest-path-1053203__180We’ve been asking the wrong question.

We’ve been asking: “How long does it take to get good at something?”

Do you want to become a world-class athlete? A renown musician? A wildly successful entrepreneur? Th burning question has been: “How much time will it take?”

The idea that it takes 10,000 hours to become great, a concept popularized by Malcolm Gladwell’s best selling book Outliers, has been hotly debated.

Let’s shift focus and ask a better question.

Rather than: “How long will it take to get good?” Short answer: “Probably longer than you’d like it to.”

Let’s ask: “How do I make sure I stay on the path of mastery?”

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Mastery takes how long it takes.

A more empowering question might be:

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